Relationship Advice: You didn't ask but I will give it anways

I was recently thinking about why people make relationships so complicated. It is very apparent before they get into one everyone is worried about the future. Why worry about leaps and bounds before you even take the first step.

So Lesson #1 Take it slow, one day at a time.

Being the resident counsellor to anyone who want to talk I have heard many-a-stories about relationships. The one thing I found out was expectations are always too high. Everyone dreams about having a fairy tale of a life, but unfortunately it is never happily ever after. It takes a lot of work.

So Lesson #2 Do not set high expectations.

Falling in love is the pre-requisite, working to achieve bliss that comes out of it is the real goal. Seldom is this ever thought about. It's always about here and now when it has to be otherwise. Work towards establishing a fruitful relationship before getting all worked up on little things. Committment is what will define your relationship not the bliss that once was.

So Lesson #3 If you are willing to give up at the first sign of failure.... move on you are not fit for it.